Letting Go

To let go (from someone), you have to trust their actions. It's like driving a car - when you're driving, you feel like you're in control because you know what you're going to do next, so when you brake quickly you don't feel on edge. But when you're a passenger and the driver brakes suddenly, you didn't know they were going to do that so you do feel on edge - you're not making the decision, you can't read their mind, and you're not in control. But if you can trust their judgement then you're going to feel better, because you're treating them like yourself, on the same level of understanding as you (you know you're capable of braking, so why shouldn't they be?). This perhaps isn't the best example, but in real life you do have to trust that those you love are going to make the right decisions, rather than interfering right away or holding on for too long and suffocating them. You can't be in control of other's lives. It could be really quite narcissistic to think yourself better at making decisions or dealing with things.